Everyday Body
Language - By Sherri Schaefer |
We start forming
impressions of people we meet from the moment we set eyes on them. A
large part of the initial impression that you create comes from your
body language. Your posture, facial expression, eye contact, and
gestures speak louder than the words you say. We all interpret body
language all the time on a subconscious level.
1. Face
The face is the most expressive part of the body. If you are feeling
anxious then your facial expression may lead you to appear aloof,
disapproving, or disinterested. You can break this misrepresentation
by making a conscious effort to smile. Your smile is one of the
strongest tools you have in meeting new people. It will help you
appear warm, open, friendly, and confident.
2. Eyes
Our eyes give clues to our emotions. A direct stare implies
intensity. It may also mean romantic interest, aggression, or fear.
Making very little eye contact can either convey shyness or
submissiveness. The middle ground of a gaze says that you are
interested, secure, and at ease.
3. Hands
Your hands are also very expressive. Open gestures tend to make you
appear open and honest. By pointing your finger, or moving your
hands closer together, you can draw emphasis to what you are saying.
Used in moderation, hand gestures can make you seem enthusiastic and
committed to your topic. Making too many gestures can make you
appear nervous and uncontrolled. Wringing your hands or touching
your sleeves, face, etc. can make you appear tense, nervous, and
sometimes dishonest.
4. Posture
The way you hold yourself, your posture, makes a big contribution to
your body language and conveys your level of self-confidence. By
orienting your body towards someone, you show attentiveness. By
falling away from them or leaning back, you show a lack of interest
and some level of reserve. When we are feeling low in confidence and
want to hide away, we hunch our shoulders and keep our heads down.
When we are feeling aggressive or are trying to defend our space, we
puff ourselves up. A relaxed body posture will help you to appear
and feel more relaxed and confident.
Your posture gives signals about your interest in something, your
openness, and attentiveness. It also gives clues as to your status
within a group.
In summary, our face, eyes, hands (gestures), and posture express
what is going on inside of us. They give clues to others and to us
as to whether the words we say are consistent with what we are
really feeling. Being aware of our body language can allow us to
send a consistent message. Smiling, making eye contact, using open
gestures, and using good posture can bring up our level of self
confidence.
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